Now I put them in bed and I am sitting down with a cup of coffee listening to some music trying to calm down and figure out a better way.
They are 18 months now and to be honest the terrible 2 came a little early for Penny. 3 times this morning she hit me and yelled no at me. I know this is normal behavior, but it definitely can get under my skin. She will listen to you generally but she won't be happy about it. She is definitely in the "throw yourself down and hit and kick anything that is near by" phase of temper tantrums. They are usually are short burst and are over quickly. Ben on the other hand completely acts like he can't hear you or has no idea what you are asking him to do. When you finally take something away or make him stop pulling the cats tail, then it starts. No where near as intense as Penny's tantrums, but his mind is a steel trap. He remembers what he was crying about and it can go on for 30 minutes.
So here I am. All the articles I have read on peaceful parenting and dealing with 18 month old behavior don't seem to factor in that I have 2 of them, and usually when one is acting up the other sees an opportunity to do something they know they are not supposed to do, ie pull the cats tail or climb shelves. How does one deal with these things while having another baby to contend with. As soon as I get the hang of this whole twins things they develop farther and I feel like I am at square one again.
My house is baby proofed, so it is generally an area of yes for them. I try my hardest to always use calm tones with them, remove them from what is causing the problem and explain to them hitting hurts or whatever the case may be. I'm not sure they understand timeout yet, nor am I positive I want to use it all the time. Even when I do try it requires so much attention on the offender in timeout that the other one gets into trouble. So what do I do? I need to figure out something we can all live with.... I just have no idea what that is. I welcome any suggestions though.