I did still plan on being in politics though. When we moved here so Will could get is PhD, getting back into campaigning was still the goal, but a preschool teaching job fell into my lap, and let's face jobs these days don't fall into your lap, so I took it. I loved it more than I ever though I would. I was just so fun! Not only did I love the hilarity that is a room full of two year olds, I liked the organization and planning of teaching. I love lesson planning and craft supplies and the books, oh how I loved the books. So I didn't mind the break from politics, infact politics had really jaded me and I kind of needed the break. It is hard to be jaded when you are surrounded by 16 big-eyed open-minded two year olds. After I had been there for awhile I found out I was pregnant. A little while later that I was in fact pregnant with twins. The cost of twins in daycare on a preschool teacher's and phd student's salary was daunting, so I became a stay at home mom.
And that is how we got here! Now I have some friends who have known me from before and they honestly feel like I gave up my life and my dreams. They almost pity me for being where I am. I was filled with so much passion for what I wanted to do and the changes I want to try to make. What I don't think they understand is that I am still filled with that passion. I still want to make changes in the world. I still have all the same principals I had then, but I found out I am called to do something else. I am more fulfilled and content with my life than I ever was in all the campaign work I did. I'm not saying I won't get back to it on some level someday, but campaign managing and political strategy is not in my future. In my future is homemade cookies and carpooling and yes even more babies, and that is perfect with me.
Many of my old friends I don't think would consider me a feminist anymore. Many of my new friends have problem with feminists. They feel it is a mother's duty to stay home. The subscribe to the adage "Why would you have kids if you would give them to someone else to raise all day?" I don't agree with that, but I do feel if you can stay home and you want to stay home, by all means find a way to make it happen.
So here I am. I am stay at home mom not always at home in the culture I am a part of, but absolutely loving being a stay at home mom. I still believe in all the things I used to believe in, but because I made the choice to stay home, I am perceived from my feminist friends as less of a feminists. I believe the movement was all about choice. Being able and allowed to make that choice. I am married to a man that if I said tonight "I wanna go back to work" He would say "Do it!" but he also understands and respects my want to be here for our babies. I make this choice. I love the choice I made, yet I respect it is not for everyone.
So that leaves me here. Home, where some think a feminist should not be and some here think feminists have it wrong. Here I sit and unlikely feminists believing women can do it all. Believing we are capable and equal in every way. Believing above all life is about making the choice and being allowed that choice and respecting others choices. I am still the same women I was, I just chose a different life.