August 1, 2012

Mommy Truce

Before I was a parent I had some many ideas of what kind of a parent I would be.  Some of them I have become, others I have not.  I was never going to feed them unhealthy food.  I was not going to let them watch tv until they were 2 then only educational tv for shorts amount of time.  I would never yell at me children especially in public.  I was going to have well behaved children who respected me and others, because I had shown them how and used gentle discipline to instil this.  I had it all planned out.

I was quick to dole out the criticism to those who didn't.  If your child acted up in the grocery store and you didn't handle it, you were ignoring you child, but if you handled it with harsh words I would think "no wonder your child acts up."  Seeing kids eat McDonalds was cringe worthy, I mean it's so unhealthy, why would you feed it to your children?  I blamed tv for so many problems with kids and thought it was just lazy parenting...

I'm sorry parents!  I thought I knew how to do it, but I had no clue! 
I put a show on the tv to get dinner on the table from time to time.
I have lost my temper with my little toddlers.
I have put one of my babies in time out already, and I am absolutely positive I will again.
I have a baby who cries at the grocery store.... no matter what I do.

And yes..... They have had McDonalds....

Let's make a deal.  Don't judge me and I won't judge you.  Let's call a truce in the mommy wars and just agree we are all doing our best.  As mothers we wake up and make the hard decisions everyday.  We all love our families and are doing the best for our own families.  So sorry to all those I judged before I had walked in your shoes, and for those in my old place, please don't judge me too harshly.  You never know how life plays out.  You just have to roll with the punches sometimes...


  1. Amen sister. I completely agree. In fact, we are twinsies mommies. Check out this blog post I recently wrote if you want to see how similar we are:

    I love your blog. I am so glad I am not the only perfect mom before I had kids. :)

  2. haha! i've totally been there! you have no clue what it's like until you're a momma :)

    found your blog through multiples and more...nice to 'meet' you! i'm your newest follower.

  3. I'm a new follower from the Mommy Brain Mixer.


  4. Sounds good!! :D visiting you from the mommy brain mixer!

  5. I am a twin and love reading about other multiples! I love it! it has always been like having a built in best friend.

    I too was an awesome mama until I became one! You are doing great though you can tell those babies are loved :)

  6. I said all of those same things...funny how quickly it changes :) New follower from the Mixer!

  7. I just wanted to stop by and tell you I have nominated you for the Sunshine award. Swing by my blog and "pick" it up sometime.

  8. I can totally relate to this! Even very recently. Before we adopted our third child 5 months ago I was proud of the fact that my kids only watched 2 hours of tv a week. Well now that #3 has come along, they watch 3 hours a day! That's just one of my many, many falls after pride. :-)

  9. I'm a new follower from the Blog Walk. Also a mom of twins. I sympathize and totally understand this post. TV would be at the top of my list of things I thought would not happen. Sigh.

  10. I agree with every word of this! I was so judgy to my friends sometimes (quietly, of course), and now looking back I feel terrible for it! I'm super happy that you linked up to the Mommy-Brain Mixer this week, friend! I hope to see you again next week! :)


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