Is this the harder part you told me about?

So when you are the parent of twins babies, other twin parents look at you with empathy and say "It gets better."  Most time is this followed by, then it will get harder again.  It's the cycle of raising kids I guess.  As you as you get settled and know what you doing, they change the game!  Let's just say Penny and Ben threw us a game changer.

They are both so mobile!  And really both of them are now walking.  Penny has been walking for a about a week now.  Not walking all the time, but a few steps here and there.  Now she is starting to stand up by herself and walk half way across the living room.  And yesterday we were having a play date with a very good friend, and Ben, out of the blue, just walked half way across the living room.  So both of them are still mostly crawling, but walking is right around the corner.  This is exciting and a bit terrifying.  I am really excited to be able to get them out to the car easier and all of the things that come easier with walker.  Then there is the vision of them running in two different directions at the park, or running away in a parking lot, or even just at home with many more things they can get into in two different places at home.  I'm just not sure I'm ready for all of that.  Well, ready or not here they come!  They are up on two feet and ready to see what this world is all about.  Now if I can find the courage and energy to help them.

 So of course I have no pictures of them walking because once the camera is out they are done, so here's some pictures of them playing in the kitchen while I cook dinner.

Their favorite thing in the kitchen.  They love the noise it makes!

Baby proofing woes

When we first moved into this apartment (baby free) one of the first things would comment on was the great open lay out. "I know, I love it!" I would reply. Well then next person who says that to me will get a completely different answer!

We used to use a pack and play and a strategically placed chair to keep the babies in the living room. They learned how to escape. So we then used the pack and play and chair and a tub under the kitchen table to just keep them out of the kitchen. They learned to get through anyway. There is no good way to keep these babies in one area! And with so much space they can each get into trouble with quite a distance between them. I never thought baby proofing we be so involved. I thought I would put the things in the plugs and on the dangerous cabinets and hide the computer and be done with it. HA! And seriously why does the oven not have a lock to keep it shut if babies are in the kitchen while you are making dinner? Nothing happened and I don't let them near the stove of course, but it does make me nervous. I can't be the only person who thinks that should be necessary! So I'm up for any pointers and tips on baby proofing because I am at a loss. And after the marathon that was today, I need to figure something out!

10 things I've learned from a year with twins.

Penny and Ben are quickly approaching their 1st birthday and I am in disbelief.  There is just no way it can be that long!  It has been a crazy ride getting through this first year with them.  The year has been full of tears, joyful, frustrated, sad, overwhelmed, any kind of tears, they are they have been cried in this household this year!  Now I am not nor will I ever claim to be an expert on raising twins, but I have compiled this list of things I have learn with a year of them.  I am not perfect and sometimes forget these lessons and have to keep relearning them.  Some of them I have to remind myself of daily, but I'm trying.

Penny and Ben's newborn picture

1. It's ok to not be happy when you learn you are having twins.  The second you announce you are having twins, all you will here is how doubly blessed you are.  And while this is true, sometimes it is not what you want to hear.  This is something that is so hard to voice.  All of us have friends or family who are trying to desperately to get pregnant.  You may even have been in the same boat, but it is still ok to not be thrilled.  It does make everything harder.  Your pregnancy will be hard.  You will never get that one new born baby one mommy bonding.  You will not sleep for atleast 2 months.  Things are just a lot different.  Some people are over the moon when they find out, and for them I say fanastic!  But if you are anything like me and go back and forth from being happy to being terrified it's ok.  Don't feel guilty!

2. Schedule Schedule Schedule!  For your own sanity get the babies on a schedule.  I know that we should never wake a sleeping baby, but it you have twins I say if one is up, wake that second one.  Feed them together, sleep them together, play with them together.  And when they are old enough, a nap and feeding schedule will be your best friend.  Trust me, it makes your life easier, and in my opinion, your babies happier.

3.  Be Flexible.  Yes I did just tell you to make a schedule and stick to it, and now I am going to tell you to be flexible.  It's a conundrum I know, but it's important.  Getting them on a schedule will help you, but you can't be a slave to that schedule.  Never forget they are two little people and sometimes need a little wiggle room.

4. Reprioritize. Your house may have been spotless, you may have made gourmet meals, you may have been crafty, but I'm sorry to tell you that your just going to have to let it go for awhile.  Freezer pizza is now your friend.  If someone ask to help LET THEM!  It is ok to have a messy house and know your Chinese delivery mans name.  It happens.

5. Trust your mommy gut.  This is the most important part of parenting any baby I believe.  No one knows your baby and your situation like you do.  Only you can make decisions that work for your family.  Don't let others sway you from what you feel is right for your own family.

6. Stop comparing yourself to other mommies. (even other mommies of multiples.)  I found it easy not to compare myself to moms with one baby.  I would just think, sure you have one, easy for you to say.  But there will be twin moms who seem to have it all together.  They are the ones that got to me.  I would think "wow their house is clean!"  I would read facebook posts about the dinners they were cooking all while I was covered in baby puke, sitting on a mound of laundry, feeding a baby and shoving pizza in my face.  Just remember people have a good face they show the world.  And odds are they are doing the same thing when you post on facebook about the cute thing your little ones are doing now.

7. Crying is OK.  This is a hard one.  It is hard to listen to one baby cry while you are feeding the other one, but as a mother of twins you just have to do it.  It is a sad fact that you are out number.  Just know you are not harming them.  You are not scarring them for life.  You are not ignoring your babies needs, and for heaven's sake quit reading those books and article that say you are.  Cut yourself some slack.  You are doing a great job and your babies love you more than anything else in the world.  Literally

8. It's only for a little while.  Repeating this got me through sleepless night and collicky twins.  I just kept saying this is only gonna last a month, and I can do anything for a month.  Soon they will sleep, soon they will stop crying, and ya know what?  They did!  I know I am lucky but I now have two babies who go down with out a fuss for 12 hours at night.  This also goes for the good stuff to, so that is also important to keep in mind.  Those newborn coos only last for a little while.  Those first smile, chuckles, steps only last for a little while.  So you get will get through it, but try to cherish it too.  I know!  Another conundrum!  I'm sorry.

9. You can do It!  There are going to be days where this is going to be your mantra, and it is important to keep telling yourself this.  You will be pushed harder than you have ever been pushed in your life.  Getting through the first year with twins is by far the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.  Just know God gave you these twins and you can do it!  No one else but you can be a mommy to those babies.  And you are perfect for the job!  Just remind yourself of that from time to time.

10. It gets easier. But then it will get harder, but then it is will get easier again.  It is a cycle of twins, with each new phase comes challenges.  Newborn twins is a unique experience, I feel like mothers of twins have almost a war bond.  I know that may sound extreme, but it's true!  No one knows what you have been/are going through like they do.  And after surviving my first year I will say, it has gotten so much easier.  I dare to say sometime I make dinner and sometimes I have a clean house... sometimes!!

10 and 1/2 months old

 So like I said, I am no expert nor will I ever claim to be one, but this is what I have learned.  My musings and lessons through the first year.  I love it!  The days are long but the years are short.  Looking back time has flown by.  I can already do so much more with them.  I just can't believe their 1st birthday is in less than a month.  So here's to the future lessons they will teach me!


 

We're going to the zoo zoo zoo!

Last week when we went to Peoria for a couple a days we went to the zoo.  I was fun.  Penny and Ben didn't quite know what to make of some of the animals.  I think mainly the just enjoyed being outside for the day.  We took my mom's daycare kids and my grandma came along so we had quite a little group.  I love that I am getting to do fun things like this with them.  A few months ago I couldn't even fathom going to the grocery story be myself with them.  Now we do the weekly!  Plus picnics in the park and all kinds of other fun things.  They are getting to an age where these things are more possible and we all love a break from the monotony of being home alone all the time.

They loved the monkeys the most!

Ben taking a break to ride on grandma's shoulders.

Sophie looking at the gazelles

What happens when you cross a zombie and a ninja

You get my life!!

Penny is the biter! She has always made zombie noises from a tiny tiny age, now she has added the biting. I have to watch her like a hawk, poor Ben is all bitten up. She even drew blood the other day. I'm not even sure how I should handle this. I mean she is only ten months right now.

Ben is the ninja! I have set up a corral in our living room to try and keep them in one room. Somehow Ben always finds his way out. He has a silent determination and always finds the weak spot! Sometimes him and penny even team up. The other day Will found Penny under the pack and play pushing it up with her legs while Ben crawled under it.

Heaven help me! These two certain keep me on my toes. They are changing so much do fast. I love watching them, but I am always exhausted by the end of the day. Can't wait to see what's next!